Dear Bereaved Parent,

Did they really say that? Sometimes people trying to be helpful say things that hurt.

I try to remember the first part – they are trying to be helpful. They don’t understand. But at least they tried.

Others say nothing and that hurt as well. They are so afraid of saying the wrong thing, the thing that hurts, that they say nothing. It doesn’t mean they don’t care.

And then there are those who get it. Who understand. What they say is less important than just being there. They don’t try to fix you or try to make sense of the senseless.

Take comfort where you can, extend grace when you can, and love them all if you can.

With Love,

Mary Anne